Comments on: If It’s Not About You, It’s Gossip.

By: Clara

Clara — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 22:15:36 +0000

I’ll drink a glass of wine to that! Cheers!

By: Leanne

Leanne — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 13:02:08 +0000

I know that I am not the subject of every conversation. I know (that person) is wrong, but I also think (that person) was telling me a fact, in a way, that it’s all about them. kwim?

I thought, going into it, that it was about us both, because I was trying to salvage a relationship that just has not been healthy. This reply was very true to form.

I thought (because it’s all about me) that others could benefit from my insight – we as emotional creatures get so offended at that remark. SO OFFENDED. Like we’re self centered, or something. It IS an insult. So instead of shoving all of these emotions into my baggage, I wanted to share it, to help others who are so rudely cut off with that statement – to let the people who have USED that line see how damaging it is.

I hope, that by sharing an insight that maybe people hadn’t thought of before (because once my mind goes on a tangent, I can’t make it stop), maybe it could benefit more than just me. At the very least, relate, and offer insight. And it appears I have struck a chord.

For that, I’m glad I wrote this post, that was all about me.

Funny how that all worked out, huh?

By: Sarcasmom

Sarcasmom — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 11:20:52 +0000

So well said. Leanne, I can’t believe anyone said that to you, of all people. You have a very generous spirit. Most likely they said what they said because they really wanted it to be all about them One good thing about blogging. When you come up with what you wish you had said at the time, you still can.

By: Kimberly

Kimberly — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 10:48:06 +0000

Good words indeed.

And now I’m want to know who you just verbally bitch slapped :dance:

By: Debra Argus

Debra Argus — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 06:28:49 +0000

OMG Leanne, how dare someone put you down like that, I love the way you have responded lol, If I may use that one day I will save it. If its not about you then who is about, maybe this person likes it to be about them ALL of the time, I have a friend who is like that, if it is not about her then she “dont wanna know” lol. needless to say I groan every time she pulls up in the driveway for a visit, she usually has no money to buy cigatrettes or a couple of drinks, so she comes to see me on those occasions. (Groan) but I have the good grace to accept her as she is, I know I would not like to be in her situation, and would love to think that she would do the same for me one day, (One can always hope) Cheers.

Debra (Australia)

By: Usedtobeme

Usedtobeme — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 03:15:04 +0000

Excellent! I couldn’t have said it better myself. :clapping: :thanku: :clapping: :iloveu:

PS you have the best smileys!

By: Da Goddess

Da Goddess — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 02:32:41 +0000

Amen!

You know what? There is a time and a place to just listen to someone and let things be all about them. But when they ask for your opinion or advice, if they don’t like it, they don’t have to take it. But if they turn on you…guess what? You won’t be there for them in the future.

Don’t let anyone push you around or make you feel as if you’re wrong because you dared speak your mind.

I’m going all in and declaring you a friend we’d all want to have living next door to us. Don’t let one person ruin your day. You’re too precious to us.

By: Leanne

Leanne — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 00:47:44 +0000

You guys are the best! Just when I think it’s time to call a therapist, you all show up and make me feel normal. LOL!

:grouphug:

By: Paige

Paige — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 22:16:00 +0000

Well said, Leanne! I love Linda’s words, “just please get off my happy train at the next stop while I continue my journey in peace.”

It makes you think that some people get stuck waiting at the train stations in life and don’t move forward. Those are the very people that tend to say the hurtful words to those that ARE able to move on trying to better their situations in life.