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  • Please, Don’t.

    January
    24
    2006

    This is my list of things NOT to do that directly relate to me and maybe you, but not definitely you. Consider that my disclaimer, in case – you know, you get offended or something.

    Please do not assume that since I haven’t called or written, that I am not thinking about you. I am. I think about a thousand things a minute, and if I physically did everything I thought about, I would be dead.

    Please do not assume that since I think about a thousand things a minute, that thinking about you is just one tiny little bleep in my day. That’s just a lie, and it’s all in your head.

    Please do not believe for one second that I’m mad at you about anything. If I were, I’d have said something. That’s just how I am.

    Please do not presume that you know what is in my heart. I wear a lot of feelings on my sleeve, I tuck a lot away when I’m hurt. I am deeper than I appear to be, more often than not.

    Please do not tell a kadjillion people that I pissed you off/hurt your feelings or otherwise disappointed you. Tell me. I’m the one who needs to know. I’m the one who needs to fix it.

    Please don’t think for a second that my “apparent lack of interest” is a lack of caring.

    Please don’t hold grudges against me, or anyone else. That only makes it seem like you’re perfect and you never did anything wrong yourself – and you know that’s not true. I forgive, you forgive, we forget, we move forward. Life gives us a lot of chances to make things right. This time or next time, don’t be above anyone else. Things suck sometimes.

    Please don’t ever tell someone they haven’t been as good to you as you have been to them. That’d be really crappy, and would make them think you’re keeping score, and that they’ll never live up to your expectations. You would most certainly do permanent damage to that person.

    Please don’t ever think or say someone has used you. No one can use you without mutual consent prior to the event taking place. If you don’t want to give a piece of yourself to someone, don’t do it. And if you do, don’t bitch about it later, because they only used what you gave away, and vice versa.

    I think that’s all I have to say about that right now.

    {36 Comments}

    1
    MommaK said,

    Fitting that I’m first considering I was thinking all of those things about you just a minute ago.:duh: (wink, wink)

    Seriously…tell me how you really feel. Are you mad at me?

    1.24.2006 @ 11:35 am
    2
    Leanne said,

    Are you really? How ironic. It must be “the day”.

    Of course I’m mad at you. Why wouldn’t I be? Have you done ANYTHING for me lately? And you should be mad at me, too. I wasn’t there the moment you ripped your toenail right off to console you, and isn’t that just unforgivable of me? I’m an ass. I owe you an apology.

    :sorry:

    1.24.2006 @ 11:45 am
    3
    Ficklechick said,

    Amen to that list!!!

    1.24.2006 @ 11:51 am
    4
    Mom said,

    Well I’m glad someone got you “peeved”! I thought it was just ME you were neglecting! :cold:
    What a relief to know that you still love me :hug:

    1.24.2006 @ 12:14 pm
    5
    Taba said,

    :good:

    1.24.2006 @ 1:12 pm
    6
    Crusty said,

    wow… you must have some really :pleasantry:sensitive:pleasantry: people in your life. Good list. Are you saving it for the next time you might need to post it?

    1.24.2006 @ 1:19 pm
    7
    Plain Jane said,

    So… does this mean you aren’t mad at me? Did I do something to piss you off? You never write me and I write you all the time. You never tell me you love me. Are you cheating on me? Is there someone else? I’m feeling neglected…

    Waaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhh!

    Sorry. :giggle:

    1.24.2006 @ 2:06 pm
    8
    Patti said,

    :friends:

    1.24.2006 @ 3:05 pm
    9
    Lazy Daisy said,

    You never write, you never call….oh wait, that’s what I tell my kids. Great List btw….can I borrow it? You can’t be all things to all people….guess we will have to love you despite your faults. You are still my hero….you go girl!:wave:

    1.24.2006 @ 5:03 pm
    10
    Lily Bleu said,

    I wish I had thought of that list myself. šŸ™‚ Many people need to be told those things in all of our lives, I am sure.

    1.24.2006 @ 5:08 pm
    11
    Lisa said,

    You could have just said this to my face instead of blogging about it in some cryptic fashion that makes everyone wonder if it was THEM, when we all know it’s all about me.

    /sigh . . where’s the love?:gloomy:

    1.24.2006 @ 6:46 pm
    12
    UziQ said,

    Thank you Leanne. I really really needed that today.

    1.24.2006 @ 6:49 pm
    13
    Leanne said,

    To your face? I’m supposed to tell you to your face? Maybe if you’d stop blowing me off and being such a scaredy cat to drive 3 hours, I could tell you to your face.

    :raspberry:

    1.24.2006 @ 6:48 pm
    14
    Lisa said,

    I wouldn’t be so scared to drive 3 hours to see you if I didn’t think you’d yell at me for using you all the time.

    poor me.:bawling:

    1.24.2006 @ 6:51 pm
    15
    Leanne said,

    Awwww. Where’s my tiny violin when I need it?

    You big freakin’ baby. Get back to work. Don’t you have thirty-something blogs to design? Shoo.

    :wave:

    1.24.2006 @ 6:52 pm
    16
    Lisa said,

    Typical.

    Emotional-one-upmanship.

    Your so good at that, it scares me.

    :zombie:

    1.24.2006 @ 6:53 pm
    17
    Leanne said,

    :giggle: thank you. :giggle:

    1.24.2006 @ 6:54 pm
    18
    Lisa said,

    Oh, stop patting yourself on the back over there.

    I’m just USING you for therapy, stupid.

    :lazy:

    1.24.2006 @ 6:54 pm
    19
    Leanne said,

    Well so much for those state of consciousness tapes I bought for your birthday.

    :sorry:

    1.24.2006 @ 6:55 pm
    20
    Lisa said,

    well, if you were a psychic with the powers and abilities to put me to sleep at night – I would welcome them. But you’re merely a cheap imitation of the real thing.

    But I still love you anyways – thanks for letting me use your blog for therapy. You can’t blame me for using you… you put it here for me to use, and I’m just taking advantage… so NO holding it against me!

    :friends:

    1.24.2006 @ 6:57 pm
    21
    Leanne said,

    You’re right. I totally allowed it. I hope YOU feel better. That’s all that really matters ayway, right?

    :hug:

    1.24.2006 @ 6:58 pm
    22
    Lisa said,

    Exactly, right. :cloud9:

    1.24.2006 @ 6:59 pm
    23
    Lisa said,

    Meowface and Talis! That’s the gallery picture on the top of your sidebar while I write in this therapy thread.

    There has gotta be SOMETHING to that!
    Something….. meaningful.
    Something….. :pleasantry: psychic! :pleasantry:

    1.24.2006 @ 7:03 pm
    24
    Leanne said,

    awww. Where’s my kitty cat smiley? Oh here it is! Just for you. :meow:

    1.24.2006 @ 7:15 pm
    25

    I was agreeing with you through all of this until I scrolled down to see the great bass picture, and under THAT was the line that you had finished your taxes already. So that’s IT Leanne! that’s IT! NERVE of you! no more comments from me!
    ill be back tomorrow when i’ve calmed down. :bawling: :biggrin:
    lol

    1.24.2006 @ 8:06 pm
    26

    so someone’s giving you attitude huh, i’ve got someone special like that in my life too, only i can’t be bothered anymore. hope this works for you.

    1.24.2006 @ 8:47 pm
    27
    Lisa said,

    :meow: :meow: :meow: :meow: :meow:

    :meow: :meow: :meow: :meow: :meow: :meow: :meow: :meow:

    1.24.2006 @ 9:11 pm
    28
    Nicole said,

    Great list hun. Sorry you had to be annoyed, frustrated, etc enough to write it but wonderful job expressing that on :pleasantry: paper :pleasantry:. I couldn’t have said it better myself. In fact, can I borrow it? šŸ˜‰

    Don’t you feel better after getting that out? Now smile… :pilot: There’s my funny face for you..

    1.25.2006 @ 12:09 am
    29

    I totally love your list! Wish I’d thought of it…:cheerful:
    LBC

    1.25.2006 @ 7:19 am
    30
    Lyndsay said,

    That is a great list!!!! Can I borrow it? I have someone in my life that needs to read it. šŸ™‚

    Hope this gets worked out. Sorry they got to yeah! But doesn’t it feel better now that this is all out. Great list again!!! šŸ™‚

    1.25.2006 @ 12:55 pm
    31
    Nancy said,

    Oh you mean you might be busy w. your life. On screech. BTW I haven’t done anything to you . …don;t take it personal. Yeah! I got one of those right now. I should use your list.

    1.25.2006 @ 3:11 pm
    32
    Clara said,

    First, I love you and you are my friend with no conditions, terms or expectations and I feel sad for the poor fool that will miss out on friendship because they feel the need for those things. Second, That bass player looks like he could be cute. Got any more pictures? Third, I like the second house, but not as much as I would if it were in CO. Hugs to you and yours, clara :friends:

    1.25.2006 @ 4:16 pm
    33
    running2ks said,

    Good to know. Hugs to you!

    1.25.2006 @ 7:40 pm
    34
    Shelli said,

    Come to think of it, I haven’theard from you lately! Are you mad at me?:gloomy::winking:

    :hug:

    1.26.2006 @ 12:00 am
    35
    Veronika said,

    I luv you! I’m so glad I met you. It’s nice to see that you’re painting and doing the things that are important to you and your family. I’m sorry to hear about your back prob. Hope you get to feeling better soon.
    šŸ™‚

    1.26.2006 @ 9:02 pm
    36

    […] From the 122 google results on “Blog for therapy”, there are also people who are here to help us with tips : Leanne for example gives us here “list of things NOT to do that directly relate to me and maybe you, but not definitely you”.Ā  We won’t. Her readers love smileys by the way. She says nothing about that so IĀ  think it’s OK with her. Are smileys the future of interpersonal expression ? Could be a good post. […]

    7.2.2006 @ 4:47 pm

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