Did you ever wish you could just say something so brutally honest to someone about how you feel, but can’t? Did you ever wonder how you would feel to just be able to get that out of your head?
I wish sometimes I could be the kind of person who has the ability to NOT say what I’m thinking. I have this horrible habit of being honest. Still, though, there’s this part of me that holds back. Unless, of course, I know I’m safe. Safe from judgement, safe from ridicule, safe from having to face the consequences of uttering the thoughts I long to speak.
Then the paranoia sets in. Can the people I trust be trusted? Why is everyone staring at me? Do I have something in my teeth? Oh no, someone told on me, my icky thoughts are common knowledge, now what do I do? Does my butt look big in these pants? You’re lying to me, I just know it.
Let’s pretend you have voices in your head, too. Let’s pretend they get icky sometimes – just humor me – what do they say? Share with me one sentence you would like to say to just one person, get the ick out of your head while the subject of your affection remains blissfully unaware. Just a nameless, shameless, random ick that you need to unload. I suppose some people’s cups never runneth over – in that case, you could just tell me how you handle your ick.
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Hmmm, well, it’s my personal opinion (which has been wrong on most occassions) that if you love someone, then whatever it is you have to say will be said in love. If the person your saying it to loves you, then it will be received in love. Therefore there is no condemnation. Feelings might be hurt, but if the “honesty” is there, then a full recovery would happen. If you don’t love the person, then what you say will not have love in it and will come out that way and will be heard that way, and should be left unsaid – unless you really want to hurt that person, in which case you may loose communication with that person permanently. The Bible says something about a rudder being so small and yet controls the shole ship, then it creates an anology about controling the tongue.. :2cents: There it is!
In a perfect world, mom, in a perfect world. Most of the time it doesn’t matter if you say it in love or not, feelings get hurt – no one wants to hurt someone’s feelings – so it’s left unsaid.
hmmmm i had A LOT ,i mean A LOT of ick in my head last week. (hormones ya know) but i went to the dr, and he gave me anti ick meds and now i can’t even think of an icky. yay!
Pretend I have voices in my head???? You mean different voices than the ones I already have? Like a voice swap? I’m up for it. I’ll ask them and let you know what they say…. :duh:
I can see how much just thinking the “ick” bothers you. In essence, you’re “doing the time without doing the crime”! If you can’t say it, then pray it. That’s all I can think of. I wish I could help – if it’s me just go ahead and “ick” if it would make you feel better. I won’t get offended… :no: :iloveu:
Ok – a mother who wouldn’t be offened by “ick” ?
I want a mother like that!!!! :rofl:
seriously, I have spent a lifetime of supressing the ick – – now, i don’t even notice I do it.
i have one person that i have held back for years, waiting to say something, biting my tongue and not liking the type of person i’m forced to be. “get over yourself you spoiled self centered b*tch”
Ashley, I am so disappointed by your loose morals. It makes me want to cry when I think about you sleeping around and doing drugs and disrespecting yourself. I don’t understand why you don’t see yourself as the beautiful, deserving young woman that I do.
I have a friend that I would like to shake and tell her to just get her life together. Does that count?
Okay, first I’ll tell you that I can hear the voices. I’m not making that up.
Second I’ll tell you that part of the reason my blog is hidden from family and people I know is so that I can speak with brutal honesty and say things I’d never say out loud.
Finally I would say that the (several) sentences I wish I could speak would be to my Mother in Law and I would tell her that contrary to popular belief, she des NOT know everything there is to know about everything there is to know; and that she shouldn’t be so prejudicial and racist; and then I would tell her to record herself so she can hear the tone in which she speaks down to people and that perhaps she could try to be nicer to those she claims to love.
Of course, all of this would hurt her feelings and she would be sad and upset so I just let it go (and rant about it on my blog). And then I tell my kids in the car not to listen to what grandma says about other races and to form educated opinions of their own.
I woman I have more contaact with than I would like tom begin with, an educated woman, pronounces the word “with” as WIF. It drives me insane!!. I jsut want to scream “with, with” lady. How did you ever get through college?
I’m really bad about this – I’ve hurt many a sensitive (and not so sensitive) being with my directness. I don’t mean to be cruel, but I am painfully honest at times. :giggle:
Oh wow..have you been in my head lately? 😯 Seriously, I’m the type who holds it in. But just recently I had my sister tell me all about the horrible :rolleyes: things I am or have done to her in the last 20+ years…mind you this was after my dads triple bypass….times like that is when I usually tend to let my feelings out, and I did. So now she’s not speaking to me nor is my mother….is it a win-win situation? I guess… :rolleyes: It seems when you tell people the truth, they don’t like to hear it. As they say, Truth Happens! :winking: And that’s what happened in my case. I’ll live. :good:
My little voices say that if I spill the ick they’ll kidnap my dog and I’ll never get him back! :shocked: So I never spill…not even to my husband, which is why there is tension and ick-iness between us right now. Sigh…
Hey I might go in the business of making signs I hang on my neck so people can just grab appropriate ones when they are being asked for advice. A most common one is a woman who is upset because their live in boyfriend disrespected her. My sign would say: “Dump the shithead. When you take him back don’t announce it to me. And don’t tell me about the next time you want to dump him again because you should have dumped him the first time you had that urge!” :pleasantry: … (put 2nd sign) “And furthermore. I don’t know what material your skull is made of because nothing penetrates the dang thing! :brickwall: You should call the Pentagon so they can clone your skull and build skyscrapers with it!” :muted:
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